Choices

"When you have to choose, any way you look at it, you lose." Simon and Garfunkel have and interesting point. How we feel about things is a matter of choice. We have to decide to lose our anger or our pride, to feel good about changes that are inconvenient and time consuming. We all want some control over our world as I've discussed in the past. We often choose bucking change as that control, as opposed to choosing control of our perpective and positive response. The importance of managing perspective with ourselves and others comes into focus in the concepts of Fisher and Ury. In "Getting to Yes", the 3rd answer is a method of perspective management eliciting a feeling of achievement from both sides in any type of negotiation. What is driving me crazy is how difficult it seems to let go of the resistance form of control and embrace the response management form. Every choice means abandoning something for something else. Argue the fine points, but that is the bottom line. The trick for me is being okay with the trade off.
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