Failure and Betrayal

We try to teach people to embrace failure. Help them believe that failure is the greatest learning experience and we get better with our failures. However, the reaction of others to our failure can make it all but impossible to tolerate. As social creatures, the human animal seeks approval from their pack and strives to add to the pack. The social promise of positive and mutually beneficial relationships drives members to join. The worst thing we can do is fail another member. That failure is treated as betrayal. No human creature bears betrayal well and the perpetrator feels the sting of their pain. It is impossible to fail without feeling the responses of betrayal in others, whether it is our manager,a coworker, or a colleague. I am a natural care-giver. It is devastating to fail and know that someone is disappointed. The tough part is not knowing how to avoid showing feelings of betrayal to others. How many of us have the control to keep our disappointment in full check to help someone else learn from failure without the pain. Of is it the point of failure to feel badly, so we strive harder to avoid it?